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Break Free from the Prison of Projection and Reclaim Your Authentic Self

Think about this scenario. You’re walking with a friend, and a dog on a leash suddenly starts barking at you, but ignores your companion. What’s going on? It’s not always about something obvious—your clothes, your posture, or anything immediately visible. Often, it’s about something unseen: the energy you’re projecting. Just like a dog can sense fear, even if you’re trying to hide it, we unconsciously project a whole range of emotions, insecurities, and judgments onto the world around us. This process, known as projection, has a powerful impact on our interactions and how we perceive reality. It’s like wearing invisible glasses that tint everything we see. Projection operates largely unconsciously, meaning we're often unaware we're doing it, yet it can significantly impact our relationships, hindering clear communication and creating unnecessary conflict. In our lives and our jobs, projection can sabotage our efforts, holding us back from taking risks and achieving our goals. A...

ProAdvisorCoach Profile: Coach Alan Graham

Helping Incredibly Talented People Work Through Their Blockages as they Try to Move Forward in their Professional and Personal Lives Alan Graham is a coach, consultant, educator, author, and presenter with over three decades of experience. His clients include physicians, attorneys, professionals, CEOs, C-Suite leaders, and vice presidents in many large and small organizations such as Deloitte Consulting, W. Wrigley & Co., Leo Burnett, Abbott Labs, PNC, Zebra Technologies, Exelon, Datamars, Vanguard, Owens-Illinois and LaSalle Network. Alan is the author of The Guide to ADHD Coaching and Lemonade: The Leader’s Guide to Resilience at Work . Tell us a little about your background . Well, my undergraduate is in economics with a minor in math. I got my Masters in teaching and my PhD in psychology from Northwestern, and I’ve worked extensively with children and adolescents. In the mid-nineties, I started to do executive coaching, and then added an ADHD focus ...

5 Steps to Conquering the Pit

We all know that feeling—a knot in your stomach, a gnawing unease that disrupts sleep, sparks irritability, and clouds your mind with worry. Maybe it stems from a troubled relationship, financial strain, looming job insecurity, or even health concerns . Anthony J. D’Angelo offered a truth we often forget, "Listen to your intuition. It will tell you everything you need to know." This wisdom resonates deep within us all, especially during the gut-wrenching turmoil of a shaky economy, challenging relationships, health concerns or a difficult business decision. These situations cast a long shadow, stretching across our careers, health, finances, and personal lives, impacting loved ones and even our neighbors and communities. Talk about wreaking havoc on the pit of our stomachs. What Actually Causes this "Pit" Feeling? Obviously, our churning stomachs aren't causing the chaos in our lives; however, they may multiply our chaos, stress and anxiety. But our feelings a...

The Power of Positive Questioning

We often find ourselves caught in a whirlwind of activity, checking boxes on our to-do lists without ever truly reflecting on the impact of our actions. It’s easy to get lost in the hustle, only to realize at the end of the day that something is missing. Perhaps it's a sense of fulfillment, a spark of inspiration, or a clear direction. The secret to unlocking a more purposeful and productive life might lie in a simple yet powerful tool: positive questioning. I often find myself at my family's vacation home in Bonita Springs, Florida, surrounded by the beauty of the Gulf, reflecting on the principles that have guided my life and career. One of the most fundamental concepts is the power of asking. It was my father, the late David Peter Campe, who first instilled this idea in me. Decades ago, he pondered a simple yet profound question: How could he secure a piece of paradise in this area for generations to come? This wasn’t a wish or a dream; it was a deliberate inquiry that set t...

Assessing Behavior in Three Dimensions

Industry coaching veteran Rich Campe of ProAdvisorCoach details the three dimensions of understanding needed to leverage change in motivating employees toward peak performance. In the business place, when it comes to improving employee performance, it’s not enough to know “what?” and “how?” It’s more important to know, “why?” And knowing “why?” is as simple as 1,2,3... dimensions that is. We are constantly making choices in our lives—choices based on the things we value. From your spouse to your house, from your car to your cat, these choices are often different between us, and are usually made based on a spectrum of factors that may or may not be readily apparent to us. You might say, that as individuals, we are “full of values.” The world, on the other hand, is “full of facts” which become the foundation for our values. There would be no value if not for this real, tangible, factual world. At first, this assigning of values may sound very arbitrary and ind...

ProAdvisorCoach Profile: Coach Matt Drinkhahn

Helping Create a Positive Impact on Professionals, their Teammates, their Clients, their Families, and the World Matt Drinkhahn is a successful entrepreneur and veteran in the corporate world where he has specialized in sales, coaching, recruiting, and sales management throughout his career. He acquired his formal education at Wofford College in Spartanburg, SC with a double major in Psychology and Business Economics. Matt’s career has been highlighted by his passion for his customers and people. He has grown his reputation on the platforms of integrity for doing the right thing the right way and his highly-energetic and enthusiastic personality . Who do you find most rewarding to coach, in terms of their personality or goals? I'd be forced to put myself into a corner if I said it was one specific vertical. I would say it's more of an archetype of a person that I tend to work with. The person that does well with me is leader who’s an overachiever and a recovering perfectionist...